“How can I reduce my anxiety and gain confidence?” This is a very commonly asked question. Millions of people, from all walks of life and in every corner of the world, suffer from anxiety and low confidence. If you can be calm and confident, however, you can be more effective in life. Life can also be more enjoyable if you can be yourself in an authentic, unstifled way. Living life with anxiety and a lack of confidence is like driving a car with the handbrake on – it doesn’t allow you to reach your full potential.
Almost every human feels anxious and unconfident in at least some situations. Anxiety is a natural human emotion that promotes caution and keeps us safe. A healthy level of anxiety, at the appropriate times, is helpful. But many people suffer anxiety chronically, even when there is no reasonable reason to feel anxious; furthermore, many situations that ignite anxiety are not actually as risky as the sufferer believes in the heat of the moment. We have all had the experience of being held back by anxiety only to realize in hindsight that our worries and fears were unwarranted.
How Can I Be Calm And Confident?
Calmness and confidence are states of mind and body that can be cultivated. You can think of calmness and confidence as muscles that you can exercise, build up, and make strong. There are various natural methods by which you can increase your calmness and confidence and decrease your anxiety – or at least make anxious feelings something you can tolerate, allowing yourself to live life fully in spite of your anxiety.
Is It Possible To Be Calm In Every Situation?
It is unreasonable to expect to be calm in every situation. In fact, trying to do so may in and of itself cause you to feel anxious. This is because when your (unreasonable) demand that you always feel calm is not met, you will tend to feel anxious about the fact that you are feeling anxious. This is called second-level anxiety (anxiety about being anxious).
It’s best to accept that you will sometimes feel anxious, and that you will not always be calm. It’s a fact of life that problems happen and things go wrong, so anxiety will probably occur from time to time. You just need to learn to not trust the anxiety signal, and to act in spite of the anxious feelings. The more you do what you want to do in spite of anxiety, the more your brain will learn to tone down its anxiety response.
How Can I Stay Calm Naturally?
Here are seven natural ways to become more calm and confident…
1. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy
CBT is a very effective form of therapy that specializes in changing the false, irrational beliefs that tend to be the cause of the vast majority of the anxiety we feel. All or nothing thinking, catastrophizing, emotional reasoning, disqualifying positives, taking things personally – all of these thought errors lead to anxious feelings. Fixing them will lower anxiety levels and encourage calmness and confidence.
2. Reframe Anxiety
Instead of seeing anxiety as an awful thing that surely signals real danger, learn to reframe it. Three helpful beliefs to instill about anxiety are:
- Anxiety is a lie. This reminds us that anxiety is almost always (at least in the safe, modern world) an overreaction.
- Anxiety is a sign that you are heading in a good direction. This reminds us that many of the most fun and rewarding actions we can take in life will initially provoke some anxiety.
- The short, sharp burst of anxiety that accompanies doing the thing you fear is less painful than the chronic anxiety that hangs over you when you prevent yourself from doing the thing! This reminds us that there is often no better way to deal with anxiety than blasting straight through it.
3. Systematically Face Fears
As mentioned, calmness and confidence are states of mind and body that need to be cultivated. A great way to reduce anxiety or to learn to live with it is to have a policy of systematically facing fears. When something provokes anxiety in you, you can gain freedom by deliberately doing that thing, over and over, until you have beaten the anxiety associated with it.Practice makes perfect!
4. Write In A Journal
Many people find writing in a journal is the best way to discover what is going on in their own minds, to find out what stories they are telling themselves, and to correct any thinking errors they may be making. A regular journaling habit will help you to understand why you are feeling anxious and allow you to challenge your misguided beliefs.
5. Physical Exercise
Physical exercise is fantastic for you in myriad ways. The endorphins released during exercise are very calming and great for reducing anxiety and increasing confidence. Being fit, strong, and confident in your own skin can also go a long way to reducing feelings of anxiety.
6. Sleep Well
Getting lots of good quality sleep will hugely improve your mental and physical health in every conceivable way. We all know the feeling of being dogged by chronic anxiety when we are tired and underslept. But when you sleep well, you are far more likely to be calm and confident.
7. Get An Emotional Support Animal
The loyal, loving company of an emotional support animal is a great way to decrease feelings of anxiety and increase calmness and confidence.
How Do I Get An Emotional Support Animal Letter?
The best way to get an emotional support pet letter for anxiety is to arrange a telemedicine consultation with a mental health practitioner through Moosh.